Inspired by the book – “Who moved my Cheese?” by Spencer Johnson, M.D, foreword by Kenneth Blanchard, Ph.D
We all struggle with change every day of our lives, whether it is regarding our health or our relationships. Unfortunately for us, change is the one constant in life; so, how do we respond when it happens? Do we readily accept it and move on? Or do we resist it completely? Other alternate responses are that we actually expect change so we are ready when it happens, or we initially resist but eventually accept it and move on.
If you, like me, struggle with change because of fear of the unknown or because you just don’t want to leave your comfort zone, then this book is a must-read for you.
This book talks about 4 different characters:
- Sniff – who sniffs out change early
- Scurry – who scurries into action
- Hem – who denies and resists change as he fears it will lead to something worse
- Haw – who learns to adapt in time when he sees changing can lead to something better
Obviously, human beings reason very differently from animals, but is it necessarily completely a positive thing? (just a thought, no insults intended). The human reasoning sometimes complicates matters, thereby making it difficult for us to adapt to change on time.
When we carve out our niches (or comfort zones), we are very resistant to anything that will take us out of it. This could be a particular lifestyle, a comfortable position at work, or a particular routine with a friend or spouse.
Could it be that you have been diagnosed with a chronic disease for which you have to take medication for the rest of your life? Are you finding it hard to accept the new changes? I totally understand; however, the truth is this – the earlier you accept the changes and adapt yourself to it, the easier it would be for you to find happiness even in the midst of it all.
Are you in a relationship but you sometimes feel like you no longer recognize your spouse/partner? Do you feel the person has changed? Well, it is a possibility but the reality is that we are not willing to accept this change, and I am starting to think that this is the basis of most of the problems in relationships and marriages. So, what if we adjusted our mindsets? What if we sniff out the changes on time, accept them and adapt ourselves to it, would it make a difference?
I don’t have all the answers, so I leave you with these thoughts to ponder on:
The earlier you accept the changes (which might not necessarily be bad) and adapt to it, the happier you would be!
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